Respecting your elders. What exactly does that mean?
I'm asking this question because recently I was in a situation where an elder was demanding respect. I personally did not see that as worthy of respect, instead, I saw that as arrogance. In my mind, respect is given, not taken or demanded. So if a person respects an elder without the elder demanding it, that almost makes the elder a humble person in my view. In which case the person doing the respecting is respecting genuinely.
However, if the elder demands respect by some means, then the person doing the "respecting" is being forced to respect, which is not respect at all, that's more dictatorship etc.
What's the Islamic stance on this? Are both definitions correct and good according to Islam?
I guess my root question is: What is the Islamic definition of respecting your elders?
I'm after the Sunni > Hanafi view.