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In islam, parents are never allowed to abuse to mentally torture children. This is against islam. the best in islam is the one having best manners (towards everyone, including their own chidren). Here is a hadith to support this claim: Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever fails to show mercy to our children and honor to our elders is not one of ...


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Can a muslim man marry himself First of all you should know that a Muslim man can marry himself without any waly even if his parents do not approve! But he should choose the right woman as our Messenger (peace be upon him) told us how or which one to chose (see for example this hadith narrated by Jabir (May Allah be pleased with him) or this one narrated ...


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There's priority in Islam, meaning your parents are more important than praying in the mosque. It's not the same if they were trying to make you not to pray. But since praying in mosque is not Wajib and doing what your parents tell you is (as long as it's not against your religion and beliefs, even in that case it's recommended to treat them respectfully) ...


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For the Pathan and Punjabi background, I would like to mention prophet Muhammad SAWW famous hadith: There is no preference for Arabs over non-Arabs, nor for non-Arabs over Arabs. Neither is their preference for white people over black people, nor for black people over white people. Preference is only through righteousness. As for the case of parents ...


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This is such a common issue in many places. I am not going to repeat that in Islam there is no preference of a caste over another, nor a race over another, as it is already mentioned by many answers here and the linked question. You have couple of options as it seems: Convince them: keep talking to your parents, and try to convince them of why you think ...


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You should educate them that if a mosque is close to your home, a man should make it a duty to go to the mosque every 5 times a day. The Divine instruction is, And bow your head with those who bow (in worship) (Surah Baqarah 43) Also some of the Prophets statements- The Holy Prophet has also stated: It better to join another person and pray ...


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Quran is very clear on this subject that good or bad deeds are not transferrable, as mentioned in Surah 35:18 And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another. And if a heavily laden soul calls [another] to [carry some of] its load, nothing of it will be carried, even if he should be a close relative.... Surah 6:164 ... And every soul earns ...


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There is no hard and fast rule in Islam that who should or must choose name of baby. If it is chosen with mutual consent of both, that is best. And Allah knows best.


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Children are a source of continous reward or punishment for their parents. Even after the parent's death, if a child does good then the parents are rewarded and vice versa. This does not negate the fact that we are all accountable for our own actions. Children are part of a parent's responsibilities and they will be accounted for the same. Similarly ...


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In Islam, your parents have a high amount of rights over you. After all, they raised you, taught you, and made you who you are. And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a ...


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if you do not see any texts on proper parenting then you are not looking hard enough. The Prophet (ﷺ) told a man who never kissed his own children, "verily, whoever does not show mercy will not receive mercy." This would apply to your parents as well! Islam does not excuse any wrongdoings, including the abuse that parents may inflict upon their children.. ...


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You cannot commit zina, as it's strictly forbidden. However, it is your obligation to get married if you think you will fall in such a sin. According to the Hanafi school of law, it is fard to get married when one is sure he will commit zina if he doesn't. It is wajib to get married if there is a possiblity that one might commit zina. Source (Hanafi ...


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Well your question could have two possible aspects: the POV of shari'a and the aspect of partnership (this is also a more or less of Shari'a POV) and the love and mercy between husband an wife. From a sharia'a point of view: it's clearly the husband who has to support his family even if the wife is working (for example in Quran), but as good as he can. ...


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Respect of parents (kindness to them) is excepted only when it would lead to shirk: And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. To Me is your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do. 29:8 Furthermore, there is nothing in ...


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Well even if I would agree with the answer of @Farhan totally, I must add that in the case that parents couldn't come to a mutual consent (at least Sunni) scholars tend to give this right to the father because of the part of the Verse in Surat al-Ahzaab (33:5) saying Call them by [the names of] their fathers; it is more just in the sight of Allah . ...


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There is a hadith in Sahih Muslim wherein 'Amr bin Al-'As says to his son: When you bury me, fill my grave well with earth, then stand around it for the time within which a camel is slaughtered and its meat is distributed so that I may enjoy your intimacy and (in your company) ascertain what answer I can give to the messengers (angels) of Allah. However, ...


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Being a young lady you sure need the permission/blessings of your parents or elders and also needed a "wali" who could have given you in marriage to the gentleman you are married to. It is noteworthy for all Muslims to understand that these are basic requirements of a valid "Nikah" Unless there are some legitimate reasons (permissible in Sharia'a). You ...


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From the hadith in Sahih Al-Bukhari quoted below, we can see that 'Amr ibn Salama lead the prayers when he was 6-7 years old. If a child could lead the prayers, and it counts, then he could definitely pray behind you in a jama'ah (congregational) prayers. The condition is that said child should be able to pray properly and to actively participate in the ...


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Allah ordered his Prophet ﷺ to command his wives and daughters to cover themselves up: يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُل لِّأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِن جَلَابِيبِهِنَّ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ ۗ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the ...


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All religions give parents an honorable and very high status. Our indebtedness to our parents is so immense that it is not possible to repay it fully. In lieu of this, it becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. ...


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This is an excellent and important question. First of all, abusive behavior falls under the category of oppression. By treating you this way, your mother oppressed you. And the Quran has very strong condemnations is oppressors. It does not single out any specific category of oppressor, be they parent or child, sibling or person of authority, friend or foe, ...


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You should find a way to please both of them, e.g. in your case consider having a conversation with them and explain your situation. In general, if obedience to both is mutually exclusive, then the mother has precedence over the father, provided obviously that obeying her will not involve disobedience to Allah. This is the view of the majority. أما إن ...


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Marriage without woman's Wali (guardian) is not acceptable in Islam. The marriage is simply not valid. There are cases where guardian consent can be disposed off though. This link talks about requirement of a marriage in Islam. This includes Announcement, Consent of both parties, witnesses, mehr and permission of woman Wali. To be valid, a marriage has ...


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Man need not consent of parents to marry but he need consent if he use their property. Woman needs a wali in marriage ceremony, but, she can marry without consent of her wali if she is "matron". What does it mean? Seems it means "not virgin and not child". But, as I know, there are different opinions among scholars about old virgin girl, whether she can ...


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To supplement the answers already given, evidence for the mother having the right to name the child includes the Quranic story of the mother of Maryam عليه السلام: وإني سميتها مريم I have named her Mary — Quran 3:36 ويدل أيضا على أن للأم تسمية ولدها ؛ وتكون تسمية صحيحة؛ وإن لم يسمه الأب; لأنها قالت: وإني سميتها مريم ؛ وأثبت الله (تعالى) ...


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Yes sure you can just not listen to your parents regarding marriage but sure you have not to hurt their feelings with your refuse, so you have to be polite in your refuse giving reasonable reasons for why you don't want to be married. Another thing you have to keep in your mind the Prophet Mohammad say: النكاح سنتي ومن رغب عن سنتي فليس مني Marriage ...


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First of all, may Allah cure your mother, and grant her full and speedy recovery. Second, the most effective supplication now is: إنا لله وإنا إليه راجعون ـ حسبى الله ونعم الوكيل ـ ولا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله We all return to Allah one day. Sufficient for us is Allah, and [He is] the best Disposer of affairs. There is no will or power except ...


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I think once you are mature and could earn for your living you are responsible. And paying for your marriage is a way to show you are able to be in charge for your wife and family. And your parents can assist you and even more. Note that some madhabs consider the fact that a husband is able to be in charge for his wife (and family) as a very important ...


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There is nothing to be done anymore. Maybe they had not heard of Islam and thus will be tested on the Day of Judgement but you can do nothing about it and nor can you remove their burden from them. You cannot seek forgiveness for them: The Prophet and the people who believe may not plead for the forgiveness of the Mushrikeen, even if they were [their] ...


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I grew up with parents who will make Abu Lahb and Yazid look like angels. Since the of 1, all I can remember is PAIN from these so called parents from hell. My father took everything from us by the time I was 4 and even tried to sell us for money. He lived a luxurious life while we grew up as orphans helped by others! My mother was mentally sick since the ...


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