Asalam Aleykum, eveyone. As a 15 years old muslim boy, I face many problems controlling my lust for women. I really want to get married and perform my fetishes on my woman in the future of course, but I want to control myself from now until I get married in thr future insh allah. Is there any dua or islamic perform to help me overcome my intensified lust for women?

  • It is a very common condition to every healthy boy around your age. Learn to control the urge or the urge will control you. Hold back marriage until you can afford a living for your wife and yourself. Until then, put your energy into learning and earning. Commented Mar 31 at 19:06

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Fast brother. Make dua to Allah to help you.

Keep yourself busy with good things.


In authentic Hadith,

it is mentioned that a person who is unmarried should observe fasting

or keep oneself engaged in activities such as sports, going to the gym, and setting life goals.


Yes these urges are natural but do not allow them to control you/your will. Make dua for a wife in Islam and make sure to always eat halal & have halal earning especially when making dua but also in general we are closer to Allah swt as halal brothers. And also, make sure to withhold this energy and cultivate and transmute this into striving in Allah cause & accomplishing your goals and mashallah you will have a wife sooner and better than you can imagine. This is powerful energy my young brother please be sure to save this energy and workout/study/perform good deeds in Allah swt’s cause. He is all-knower of what we do.


Sexual instinct is a natural instinct just like our need for food. So by saying any dua you cannot get rid of sexual instinct. What you can do is control yourself so that you never indulge in forbidden sexual relationship with anyone. But as an unmarried person, you will of course have sexual fantasies and thoughts. This is natural and you will have need to ejactuale also. This can happen in your dreams or otherwise and this is quite natural for a person in your age.

Those who avoid the major sins and immoralities, only [committing] slight ones. Indeed, your Lord is vast in forgiveness. He was most knowing of you when He produced you from the earth and when you were fetuses in the wombs of your mothers. So do not claim yourselves to be pure; He is most knowing of who fears Him. Quran 53:32

if you happen to do some forbidden things, make sure you do good deeds so that these forbidden things can be forgiven.

A man kissed a woman and then came to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and told him of that, so this Divine Inspiration was revealed to the Prophet (ﷺ) 'And offer Prayers perfectly at the two ends of the day, and in some hours of the night; (i.e. (five) compulsory prayers). Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds (small sins) That is a reminder for the mindful.' (11.114) The man said, Is this instruction for me only?' The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "It is for all those of my followers who encounter a similar situation." https://sunnah.com/bukhari:4687

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