Assalamu'alaikum, I was wondering this for long time. I suffered because of my parents ignorance since childhood, they denied to provide necessary things,they just provided me least minimum survival foods and suffered a lot due to lack of treatment. They don't even teach life lessons, or guide me, or made a life plan. I needed to be grown up to be my own guardian to make my life plan, so I became late. They say what is their profit raising a child, why did I come to this world. My question is, is it me who chose to come to this world or did they bring me to suffer? They don't want to work, don't gain and implement knowledge, and kept hoarded all the properties. Since childhood they lied, and deceived me. I was physically and mentally abused, there are so many things that can't be written here in short. They also influence me to suicide (because of money).

But it's not only about me, but also about the children like me who suffered because of their parents. Some poor parents do work hard to give the best to their children, but what about those parents who were reluctant to do so and thinks why would they do the little to their child and make the children's lives valueless. Abuse the children to death. And I grew up seeing my rich relatives who's children were over pampered, their education, their behavior, learning, life plan and many thing are just the inheritance of their parents hard work.

And there is no ruling in our country for parents. A man become angel when they give birth, no matter how they raise their child here. All the faults of the parents are forgiven because the rulers are parents, but children's are the blameworthy one. It's not a regular case, most of the time parents are dedicated, but there are truly some children who are really suffering most because of their parents, and where is the help?

Thus, my question is, why would the children suffer because of their parents? Why????

JazakAllah khairan

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This question has a simple answer. Which is that: This life is a test.

And these two verses of the Quran should also answer your question.


[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed - and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving - — Saheeh International


And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, — Saheeh International

I recommend you to watch this video if you have further doubts:


  • JazakAllah Khairan. Thank you for the answer. Yes it a test. But why the difficulties aren't equal, why some people go through more difficult test since childhood, why the weight of difficulties varies since childhood? I was just wondering.
    – daily rain
    Feb 5 at 8:17
  • @dailyrain Because Allah tests different people differently. And Allah is just. You won't even be able to object to His justice in the day of judgement. So if you are wronged in this world, be sure, that Allah's justice is there.
    – Mahir
    Feb 5 at 8:58
  • @dailyrain If you are suffering, then see this hadith and this website. InshaAllah you will feel much better after this.
    – Mahir
    Feb 5 at 10:41
  • thank you for sharing those. So, a child who did born under a difficult parent/family shouldn't feel guilty, and can expect something better
    – daily rain
    Feb 6 at 17:09
  • @dailyrain Why should he feel guilty? But he should be patient, and InshaAllah Allah will reward him for his patience. And he should try to please Allah.
    – Mahir
    Feb 6 at 17:23

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