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A.a recently i came to know that Allah doesn't accept a person's ibadah if he has hatred in heart for someone. I have a friend who i don't talk to anymore. Because that person isn't good for me. I was never an angry person but bcz of her influence (words and actions) i often used to get angry and i changed a lot in a bad way. I used to get angry because of the things she said. She already had done so much against me but i still forgave her and moved on but back then i didn't knew her closely.

After some time We started to get closer as we had same school we had to be in contact. I had some positive things in me for which people loved me. Be it physical appearance or personality. for eg. People would praise me for my beautiful smile and eyes and long hair. She would praise me too but i knew that it made her upset bcz she didn't recieve such compliments.its obvious when ur friends are praised but not u, how that feels? She would tell me how she wanted those things in her self which she liked in me. But now the tables have turned. Every single thing that people liked in me have vanished.i cant even make eye contact with people.i've got dark undereyes & hollowness. My teeth started to turn yellow my hair started to fall my face started to change color. I started noticing that she was copying me in many things started competing with me in everyway possible and ultimately succeeded. While as i lost some qualities, she gained the same. We have a common friend who would say that its like her and I have swaped personalities. Three of us then took the admission in a same college it was there that i realized how much i have changed bcz of her being around me. I got the opportunity to get out of the college and and stay away from her and get admission in another one. So our mutual friend also left with me leaving her alone. Our other friends started hating us because we left her alone i also felt bad for her. But i had to think about myself, after that i kept in touch with her for sometime thinking she'd have changed and all but no again she started doing things. AND then i decided to totally cut her from my life as i was getting depressed. I have already given her so many chances. But now it's enough.

I DON'T TALK to her anymore for months. I have developed so much hatred for her bcz of the things she did to me in past. I asked Allah so.many times to get me out of this situation.. but its been years now.I keep getting sick due to which my physical appearance has changed a lot. I went to many doctors but my test reports are always shown normal. Doctors are unable to find whats wrong with me. I keep thinking why is this happening to me . Is it me who has wronged her somehow is it bcz i left her alone. Is it bcz i was selfish for thinking about my peace?. Because i am the one who has lost all .. I don't wanna have any kind of hatred in my heart for anyone. Please tell me what to do.

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You should focus on yourself, personality and ignore your friends wrong behavior. Whenever you meet her, always meet with good behavior and forget about what she things of you or what happened in the past.

If you have hatred for her then this problem can be solved if you you pray to Allah for her, that she may have good life and the life of hereafter, pray this for yourself too.

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Physical beauty isn't last, this is a test from allah, if you didn't wrong with someone then you have not to worry and if you have wronged with someone then ask for forgiveness to them. Your real beauty is in your inside not your outside. If your character is beautiful you are beautiful. Allah says in Quran" We will certainly test you with fear and hunger, and loss of wealth, lives and crops. But(prophet) give good news to those who are steadfast."(2:155) Allah will test everyone, allha will test you also, make sure that you are getting closer to allah by this test. When the days were good for you that was a gift from allah now days are bad for you this is also a gift from allah, he has given you a chance to come closer to him, he tests you because he loves you, don't be sad allah is with you , this world isn't last, the real world is aakhirah . If someone has wronged with you then you have the choice whether you forgive them or not. Forgiving doesn't mean that for them in your heart there is no hate, you are a human, only Allah has this type of quality of forgiveness. If you want to forgive her then forgive her, go to her and be friend to her and hug her . This is human nature that you will not fully satisfied with her, so don't worry about it.

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