Musnad Ahmad 12237:

He (muhammad) crepy unawares behind him (Zahir) and hugged him.The man said,"get off me"who is this?". Then he turned his head and discovered that it was the prophet. So he proceeded to push his back into the prophet's chest when he recognized him.

Sunan Bayhaqi and Al Halabi.

According to this hadith, a man named Zahir, who used to declare that “the prophet loves me,” said that one day Muhammad crept unawares behind him and put him in a bear-hug. Zahir, alarmed, yelled, “Get off me!” After turning his head and discovering that it was Muhammad, he stopped struggling and proceeded to “push his back into the prophet’s chest—prayers and blessings upon him."

Sunan Abu Dawud 5224:

"The prophet lift up his shirt so he (the man) hugged him and kiss his torso (from his belly button to his armpits)".

the same story has been repeated by Dawud 1669:

"..My father sought permission from prophet. (when permission was granted), he entered between him and his shirt and began to kiss him and embrace him.."

There seems to be a problem with the Hadeeths or how many people have understood it

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    Kissing and hugging because of brotherly love and respect is not the same as that due to sexual desire. The problem is in the dirty thought of those who can't conceive of anything outside of sexual attraction.
    – UmH
    Mar 13, 2021 at 10:44
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    What is the issue? Don't you know Arabs still have the culture to kiss each other on the cheek when greeting? There is nothing wrong with it.
    – The Z
    Mar 14, 2021 at 0:09

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The first Hadit (coming from the back) seems to me that the Prophet ﷺ made this for fun with one of his best friends. It is from among the great mass of Hadit that have not been selected as relevant. As for all Hadith of this category, it is unsafe that it is true. In todays common understanding, if someone does this to an unknown person, it would be sexual harassment, with a good friend you may make funs like this unless he tells you to stop.

For kissing, reading some more in the Hadith collection of Abu Dawud 5216 ff. , it seems that kissing between men (including the Prophet ﷺ himself) or between women was not a no-go. The Prophet ﷺ encourages us to kiss our own children to show love. We know that there is a big difference between kissing a child to show love and sexual acts with children. Alike, it seems that men kissing the prophet was really accepted as a sign to show love to him. This does not mean that it is understood the same in our societies; it is important to see how it is received.


My intention of writing the question was to actually make it accessible for people to get this information, nonetheless regarding Zahir, the statement was cherry picked, they were good friends and the prophet also began joking with him just like how the brother Jeschu said, and the entire story goes as follows,

Anas (ra) said, "There was a man from amongst the Bedouins whose name was Zahir bin Haram. Whenever he came to Medinah for a need, he brought something for the Prophet (SAWS) as a gift, like cottage cheese or butter. Likewise, when the Prophet (SAWS) would prepare something to give to him whenever wanted to leave, such as dates and so on. The Prophet (SAWS) used to love him and say, "Zahir is our Bedouin and we are his city dwellers." Zahir was not very good looking. One say, Zahir (ra) left the desert and came to Allah's Messenger (SAWS) but did not find him. He has some merchandise to sell so he went on to the market place. When the Prophet (SAWS) found out about his arrival, he went to the market place looking for him. When he arrived, he saw him selling his merchandise with sweat pouring down from his face. He wore Bedouin clothers which did not smell good either. The Prophet (SAWS) hugged him tightly from behind, while Zahir was unaware and could not see who it was. Zahir (ra) became scared and said, "Let me go! Who is this?!" But the Prophet (SAWS) remained silent. Zahir tried to release himself from his grip and started to look right and left. When he saw the Prophet (SAWS) he relaxed and calmed down, placing his back against the Prophet's chest. The Prophet (SAWS) began to joke with him, saying to the public: "W ho will buy this slave?! Who will buy this slave?" Thereupon, Zahir (ra) looked at himself and thought of his extreme poverty, for he had neither wealth or good looks. He said, "You will find me unmarketable, 0' Messenger of Allah." The Prophet (SAWS) said, "But you are not unmarketable with Allah (SWT). You are very precious to Allah." "How often we cry over Fate, but abundant good lies just behind it. 0' Soul, it is goodness, even if it arrives after a while."

Al-Bayhaqi, ‘Sunan al-Kubra’, 10/248 [found in Musnad Ahmad, Musnad Abi Ya’la and Bazzar with slight variations] – graded as saheeh by Ibn Katheer in ‘Al-Bidaayah’, 6/48; Ibn Hajar in ‘Al-Isaabah’, 1/542; Al-Haythami in ‘Majma az-Zawa’id’, 9/371 (#15979) and al-Albani in ‘Takhreej Mishkat al-Masabih’, 4815 (see also ‘Mukhtasar Shama’il’, 204), Enjoy your life (Topic 9, with the poor by Dr. Mohammad Abdulrahman Al-Arifi)

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