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Salam alikum , I’m not that good at English so pardon me.

I don’t have a good relationship with my mother. I usually get yelled at every useless thing , I get scolded , I get to listen harsh words from my mother that breaks the soul and there was one time she said that adoption was better than having me.

I don’t keep those words on my mind that much but sometimes it truly gets me..

Today a fight happened , she basically told me those harsh words and other hurtful words and by that time I got tired and I started shouting.. I said what did I do and what I have done and why you are always like this etc.

After a while she threatened me saying that she will do dua on me or she will call the police cause I disrespected her.

And rn I’m crying at my room regretting the stuff I did.

I’m also dealing with major depression and it’s not helping me with the current situation at all.

I’m sorry I couldn’t explain well since English is not my mother language..

Thank you for your time and I hope you can help me on what should I do..

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  • Sorry , my question is what should i do.. I’m trying to ask my mother to forgive me but she doesn’t accepts. If I repent to allah for my mistakes but my mother didn’t accept will I still be forgiven? Jun 17 '20 at 11:26
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    Repent to allah and ask forgiveness to your mother. If you did ask your mother to forgive you sincerely and she doesn't accept your forgiveness, Then there is no sin upon you. Just be good to your mother and repent to allah. And don't be sad because everyone makes mistake. What matters is how you react after making the mistake @Randomperson
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    Jun 17 '20 at 15:37
  • Did you do anything to your mom to make her angry ? Jun 18 '20 at 7:23
  • I truly didn’t do nothing.. I wanted to take the food to my dad but my dad said no take it back home. I took it back I told my mom in a peaceful way and she started cussing as if it was my fault... I didn’t know my dad wanted me to come to his shop cause he never told me at all. He called my mom and said where I am and why I didn’t came..after the call she started shouting , she started cussing , she said word that left me confused on what I have done simple. Jun 18 '20 at 9:05
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Salam random person,

I understand that sometimes parents could be tough. But it's important to remain patient. I see that your mother is angry at you and yells at you for no literal reason. If that's true, I advise to let her anger play out. Anger is like a drug and it's almost like someone being drunk. So let her get sober and stay patient until she calms down. I advise you to understand her perspective what is she going through? How would you have reacted if you were in her shoes? Ask these question, are you the problem or is it something else. If it's something else, talk to her in a noble fashion, have leniency in your heart just like how our prophet and Quran recommended. Talk to understand her situation and try to do something about it. I see that you have mentioned she said "adoption was better than having me", trust me no parent can ever give up on her child unless he's truly beyond saving. But who would know that other than Allah? Your mother loves you and it's just gonna be late until you realize it, unless you see the world through her glasses. Be grateful, that you have a mother, verily she's the easiest way to paradise so treat her like your queen. Most people can only dream of having a conversation with their mother whether it is for better or for worse.

Although, if it's you who is in error, then I immediately suggest you repent to Allah and your mother. Verily, if you lose her you lose Allah.

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