I am a Muslim. I believe in Almighty Allah, the Most Beneficent and Merciful. But I am a lesbian. I've known this since the age of 8. I don't want to go to hell. Will I go to Jahannam? I'm scared. This is who I am. I'm also Non-binary. Help.
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“A person is not to be blamed for his nature. Rather, he is to be blamed if he acts according to his nature.” -Al-Junayd in ‘Hilyat al-Awliya” THis is from this question: Why is homosexuality a sin if Allah made me this way?
It basically says that you are not going to Hell for the way you are but for the things you would do.
Asslam o Allaikum.
First of all, As another user Yakoub Ali also referred to this:
“A person is not to be blamed for his nature. Rather, he is to be blamed if he acts according to his nature.” - Al-Junayd in Hilyat al-Awliya.
This clearly means that although you may seem attracted to the same gender but if you control that feeling of yours and not do anything unlawful / haram then obviously you won't go to Jahannam for this matter.
In other words: One who has homosexual desires is not irresponsible for that but committing unlawful things does make him/her sinful.
If you're a homosexual Muslim with urges to engage in homosexual behavior, then you should simply abstain from it and remain celibate. This is just your test. Just like how if you're a straight Muslim with urges to commit adultery, you shouldn't, and should wait till marriage.