My father asks me to do a lot of things that he's too lazy to do himself, and these things seem very wrong. 

An example of this is him calling me from the mosque to come back home to turn on the TV for him or to pass him the remote. He calls me to send me twice every minute. 

Islam says that you should obey your parents as long as what they tell you to do is not a sin. So am I forced to obey him in this kind of scenario? 

Can my father command me to do anything he wants (as long as it's not a sin)? If so, what if he wakes me up in the night to cook a difficult dish for him?


عن أسماء بنت أبي بكر رضي الله عنهما، قالت: قدمت علي أمي وهي مشركة في عهد رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم، فاستفتيت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم، قلت: وهي راغبة، أفأصل أمي؟ قال: نعم صلي أمك Narrated Asma' bint Abu Bakr:

My mother came to me during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and she was a pagan. I said to Allah's Apostle (seeking his verdict), "My mother has come to me and she desires to receive a reward from me, shall I keep good relations with her?"

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, keep good relation with her."

— Bukhari

My Mom asks for weird things of me too. I belive if you make dua, Allah will answer. Allah knows what you are going through. In tough times, I find it best to praise and build your relationship with Allah. However, your parents are in no position to keep you from Allah. I think you should make Salat al-Istikharah and talk to your parents about this. May Allah guide you.

  • This has been helpful. I really appreciate your opinion. May Allah bless you and increase you in knowledge – Taofeek Apr 17 '20 at 10:50

I find the following video has helped me a lot:


And then, you must make the decision yourself as to what constitutes 'too far' and 'unIslamic', but remember how Ibraheem AS treated his polythiest, mushrik father when he kicked him out of the house: he said words of peace--only every words of peace.

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