Assalamu alaikum, I had a fight with my father, left the house and moved to different location, then my father also moved to a different location. I want to patch up with him but he does not want to keep any relation with me. It has been many years now, I do not know his address and he is not receiving my phone calls, so there is no way left for me to contact him. So, if anyone of us dies in this state, the sin of Qata Ta'alluqi is on me or him?

  • What is qata ta'alluqi? – Medi1Saif Apr 15 at 20:31
  • It means nullifying relationship with someone mainly because of conflict/fight. – Anas Shaikh Apr 16 at 9:51
  • If a person is a close relative this is not accepted in Islam. Please explain each term you use and use meaningful titles (see in our Meta) – Medi1Saif Apr 16 at 10:04

Qata Ta'alluqi is an Urdu term that many one here would not be familiar with. I think it means repudiation, or in this case to nullify in relationship with your father. There are many verses in the Quran about maintaining the ties of kinship. For example, see: [al-Nisa’ 4:1] [al-Isra’ 17:26] [al-Ra’d 13:25] [Muhammad 47:22-23]

A man said to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allaah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that.” (Reported by Muslim)

Do your best to continue to reach out to him and ask Allah to soften his heart.

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  • Thank you very much for your response. The problem is that he has blocked me on phone, so I can't even contact him on phone. All relatives that are in touch with him are also not keen on giving me any status about him, even they don't keep any contact with me...so I cannot in anyway reach out to him.... – Anas Shaikh Apr 13 at 19:04

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