I'm young and newly married. My wife and I had been practicing anal sex and by chance i learned it was haram. I immediately stopped practicing. But it has always been consensual and my wife enjoys it more than vaginal sex. Now she's asking for it and i remind her it's haram but she's upset by it.
From what I understand, the reason in Islam it's haram from my googling is that most of the time it's forced/when your wife is on her period. But we use condoms always just for cleanliness as well.
Is it still haram if it's consensual, with both parties enjoying it?