I want to know that before marriage if a girl touches her sexual organ by herself, thinks about having sex and have the sensation, is it haram in Islam? Please let me know. Thank you.
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Your statement: I want to know that before marriage if a girl touches her sexual organ by herself, thinks about having sex and have the sensation, is it haram in Islam? Please let me know.
It is somewhat disliked for a man or woman to touch his or her own private parts (sexual organs) without need, since it entails going against religious propriety and modesty that Islam encourages for its followers.
Sayyiduna Abdullah ibn Umar (God be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of God (God bless him & give him peace) passed by a man of Ansar who was admonishing his brother regarding modesty. The Messenger of God (God bless him & give him peace) said, “Leave him, for modesty is part of Faith.” (Sahih al-Bukhari & Sahih Muslim)
1. Sexual fantasies
You asked whether it is or not permissible for a girl to have sexual fantasies while touching her private parts? Well let's see, sexual fantasies are among the thoughts that cross a person’s mind because it is something that is stored in the subconscious which is affected by the environment in which he lives and the scenes that he sees. These are thoughts that occur to most people, especially the youth, but they vary from one person to another with regard to their type, strength and effect.
Islamic sharia is the sharia of the natural state of man and it is in harmony with human nature, and it takes into account the psychological fluctuation that God has made a part of the human make-up. So it does not go beyond human limitations or impose impossible burdens.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may God be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of God be upon him) said: “God has forgiven my people for whatever crosses their mind so long as they do not speak of it or act upon it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2528) and Muslim (127).
Some say that if you continue to think of sexual fantasies or dwell on it, then you are sinning by doing this but if it comes volunteer which means only sometimes but not with your intention, then you are forgiven if God wishes.
In my opinion, I think it is the best to refrain from such thoughts because slowly by slowly it will probably makes you obsessed and eventually you will commit adultery without your knowledge and this is very serious. Let's say, you are married, and you bring sexual stories to your spouse, do you think that your spouse will accept that? What would be his or her reaction? Have you thought about it? I think it is best not to dwell on such thoughts and do acts of worship which will benefit you in Hereafter such as praying regulate.
This is happening because it stems from a natural desire that human beings have and can best be resolved through marriage.
I have found a website which have been discussed about this matter. You may look at the following list which is mentioned below.
So, according to my understanding, sexual fantasies must have also it's limits, I mean, you can't always think of this because I am sure that you have work to do and this might distract you from work. Because, everything must have limits because there is always something important to do such as studying, praying, fasting studying a chapter from Quran etc...
Masturbation is something shameful, and if you cannot handle yourself from that, then you find a spouse which is suitable for you. Because there is a narration:
Abdullah bin Mas’ud Radiallahu anhu in Bukhari and Muslim. He says that Messenger (PUBH) said: “O group of youth! Whoever from amongst you can marry should do so because it keeps the gaze low and it protects the private parts. And he who cannot marry should make it compulsory upon himself to fast because it breaks lust.” (Bukhari : vol.6, pg.117 ; Muslim: vol.10, pg.172)
There is a verse from Quran I remember but not well that one can masturbate what only the right hand posses or from the spouse.
If you get married, then you may jack off, but as long as you are unmarried then you cannot do that unless you you do not take this as habit or you use haram materials such as pornography. That is why I think it is haram to jack off.
Now we are getting to final answer.
CONCLUSION: you should try your best to refrain from them because who knows, it could bring you a lot of harm and you will be blamed for your deeds so better to avoid than having sorrows later.
I hope this answers your question.
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If it is masturbation, my reply is:
Masturbation is haram for both male and female, as
Allah said in Quran (interpretation of the meaning): "And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that , then those are the transgressors ." [Q.23:5-7]
In the above verse Allah stated them as transgressor .
And these transgression is not normal as
In a Sahih hadith, حَدَّثَنَا عِيسَى بْنُ يُونُسَ الرَّمْلِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا عُقْبَةُ بْنُ عَلْقَمَةَ بْنِ حُدَيْجٍ الْمَعَافِرِيُّ، عَنْ أَرْطَاةَ بْنِ الْمُنْذِرِ، عَنْ أَبِي عَامِرٍ الأَلْهَانِيِّ، عَنْ ثَوْبَانَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ أَنَّهُ قَالَ : " لأَعْلَمَنَّ أَقْوَامًا مِنْ أُمَّتِي يَأْتُونَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ بِحَسَنَاتٍ أَمْثَالِ جِبَالِ تِهَامَةَ بِيضًا فَيَجْعَلُهَا اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ هَبَاءً مَنْثُورًا " . قَالَ ثَوْبَانُ : يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صِفْهُمْ لَنَا جَلِّهِمْ لَنَا أَنْ لاَ نَكُونَ مِنْهُمْ وَنَحْنُ لاَ نَعْلَمُ . قَالَ : " أَمَا إِنَّهُمْ إِخْوَانُكُمْ وَمِنْ جِلْدَتِكُمْ وَيَأْخُذُونَ مِنَ اللَّيْلِ كَمَا تَأْخُذُونَ وَلَكِنَّهُمْ أَقْوَامٌ إِذَا خَلَوْا بِمَحَارِمِ اللَّهِ انْتَهَكُوهَا " .
Meaning : It was narrated from Thawban that the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said: “I certainly know people of my nation who will come on the Day of Resurrection with good deeds like the mountains of Tihamah, but Allah will make them like scattered dust .” Thawban said: “O Messenger of Allah, describe them to us and tell us more, so that we will not become of them unknowingly.” He said: “They are your brothers and from your race, worshipping at night as you do, but they will be people who, when they are alone, transgress the sacred limits of Allah .”
Classification : Hasan
When anyone mastubate, he/she don't do it openly. They, of course, do it secretly. So this is a serious transgression.
These were few references. But there are more references from Sunnah and from Quran. This website described them.