I want to know why in Islam a wife must obey her husband with the exception of doing sinful acts.

What affords her husband the right to command her at all times ( with the exception of that which is prescribed by religion)?


Because Allah has commanded it and made it a virtue for them:

فالصالحات قانتات

So righteous women are devoutly obedient

Quran 4:34

التي تسره إذا نظر وتطيعه إذا أمر ولا تخالفه في نفسها ومالها بما يكره

[The best woman is] The one who makes him happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself nor her wealth.

Sunan Nisai

And because Allah has commanded the husbands to spend on their lodging and maintenance (Nafaqah) so it is reciprocated:

وبما أنفقوا من أموالهم

and because they spend (to support them) from their means

Quran 4:34

  • RIght okay. But lets say the wife is prohibited by her husband from doing things she wants to do, the only options that exist for her are to either attempt to convince him to change his mind, or to request a divorce from a judge yes?
    – John Doe
    Sep 8 '18 at 18:45
  • This would depend on the 'things'.
    – UmH
    Sep 8 '18 at 18:59
  • @JohnDoe Requesting a divorce does not have to be through a judge
    – Aboudi
    Sep 8 '18 at 18:59
  • @JohnDoe Also the recommended approach is to seek council from different members of the household prior to making a decision. Even the prophet (PBUH) went by his wife's advice on occasions and he used to always undertake house chores. I suggest looking into how a wife is to be treated in Islam and what are her rights rather than concentrating on that which is controversial for a better understanding. Also children are to hold their mothers at a higher level than their fathers.
    – Aboudi
    Sep 8 '18 at 19:14
  • Well what i'm getting at is that she can either plead permission from her husband , ask someone to talk to him for her, or seek divorce from some authority figure ( not necessarily a judge). I just wanted to know if that's the case.
    – John Doe
    Sep 8 '18 at 19:19

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