Assalamun Alaikum,
I am a woman of 28 yrs now. I am not living with my abusive and violent husband anymore. I have been living with my parents for a month now and decided for divorce. The question is whether we can look for some eligible men for my second marriage before divorce, as we don't know how much time these procedures will take.
As for my current husband, he is not on deen, doesn't perform salah, doesn't take care of me and my daughter, doesn't provide money on time or when we need, takes money from my earnings, has haram relationships with non Muslim women, and beats me when I ask or even question.
He says his friends come first in his life so he will take care of them and their family first, but besides that he doesn't take care of anything single thing in our house. I manage everything on my own. He doesn't even talk to me and my daughter, who is just 5 yrs old now. He is always on his phone.
When I left him, my daughter was in fever. He didn't even come once to see her, or call to ask about her. So divorce is the last thing left. I have been married to him for 6 years and have suffered enough again and again. He even took all my gold and things that my parents gifted on my wedding. He spends money like water, earns good income, but doesn't buy our own house because his expenses are very high. So, we can only afford to live in rented apartments.
From my side I did more than my responsibilities in terms of each and everything, monetary help, faithfulness, obedience, socially, taking care of his family in offer of my love to him and his family and Allah swt knows that. وجزاكم الله خيرا .
