I don't know what a good beginning is this for this kind of situation. So I'll just start right off the bat. My father always hit me against my head since I was a little boy around 2 till 3 years as far as I remembered. And every year it seems that it creates some sort of normal behaviour to him. I'm now 20 years old and I'm sick of it. Today it happened again. He always hit me against my head this time because I argued with my stepmom about not washing your hands which causes the stairs to be filthy. I don't argue much with my stepmom but when I do I just correct every major flaw in her reasoning. My father had enough of the debate and approached me to shut up and I didn't. So he hit me and every time he assaults me I just don't want to hit him back because I want to have respect for my only living parent.
Now my question is "Can I sue him in court go against some laws in quran because I can't find anything in the soerat baqara about this situation? Will it" because I can perfectly live now by myself. The only thing that holds me back are my sisters, my older brother and my younger brother.
But I can't find a solution to this matter especially when my father makes it worse by saying "Drown in your misery" in tmazight. I never tried reasoning with him because I think he will most likely just get more mad. It seems that after all that he has done for my siblings and me he can do whatever he wants with us when it comes to hitting us.
Can I hit him back in self-defense? I also know that a lot children face the same problem because it is almost tradition in our culture to hit children when they don't listen to their parents. But I'm strongly against this way of educating your own child.
Please help me before I really go to court and sue him.
I'd appreciate citations to dig into the theory.