Firstly, you don't owe any maintenance\money to your husband, rather your husband owes maintenance to you, its called nafqah and is an integral part of marriage.
Quran 2:233 ... Upon the father is their provision and clothing
according to what is acceptable ...
Quran 65:6 Lodge them [in a section] of where you dwell out of your
means and do not harm them in order to oppress them. And if they
should be pregnant, then spend on them until they give birth. And if
they breastfeed for you, then give them their payment and confer among
yourselves in the acceptable way; but if you are in discord, then
there may breastfeed for the father another woman.
Quran 65:7 Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose
provision is restricted - let him spend from what Allah has given him.
Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given
it. Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease.
Quran 4:34 Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has
given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from
Secondly, its your husband's obligation to spend time equally between his wives, it is a precondition of permitting him polygamy.
Quran 4:3 ... marry those that please you of [other] women, two
or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then
[marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more
suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].
Quran 4:129 And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling]
between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline
completely [toward one] and leave another hanging.
عن عائِشة، قالت كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقسم بين نسايه ثم
يعدل ثم يقول " اللهم هذا فعلي فيما املك فلا تلمني فيما تملك ولا
Aishah said: "The Messenger of Allah used to divide his time equally
among his wives, then he would say 'O Allah, this is what I am doing
with regard to that which is within my control, so do not hold me
accountable for that which is under Your control and is beyond my
Sunan Abu Daud, Sunan Ibn Majah, Sunan Nisai, Jami Tirmizi
Thirdly, advice on how to remedy this situation is relationship counseling and opinion based and we don't delve into that here. Options could include:
- Talking with your husband, admonishing him of your rights.
- Getting a third party involved, such as parents\relatives etc.
- Seeking separation.