- My partner belongs to a Sunni family and i belong to a Shia one.
- My partner and i know each other from a long time, and we understand and respect each other's point of view.
- I however, do not follow shia practices like majlis/matam, nazr niyaz etc and do not personally believe in them. To be honest, I do not believe in any sect particular, being neutral on this matter.
- We both are doing the basics: namaz, roza and zakaat, believe that Allah is one and Muhammad PBUH is his prophet.
- My parents and family have no objection to this marriage. In fact are extremely happy that my lady is religious and a muslim.
- Also I do not live my parents and have confirmed with them that they will not force my partner to follow Shia practices, in case they decide to move in with us.(Plus I know their nature too :) )
Recently our marriage talks have come into some trouble and would like to request some clarification on the same:
The lady's father(a very nice and pious man), is against this marriage and believes that Shias are not muslims. Is this correct ? If not can you give us credible references so that we could put these forward to him?
My lady has no issues with my background nor do I have issues with her remaining a Sunni and our children being Sunni. Having lived with Sunnis my entire adult life, have no issues with the Sunni school of thought. Can there be an Islam approved contract that I can write this on, so that my in-laws would trust me with this ?
My lady is very tensed and her career and health is suffering adversely because of this. Also the issue has caused a rift within my lady's family and we feel guilty about the same. How can we convince them that this would be a legal Muslim marriage? Any credible references would be welcome.
I am even willing to be a Sunni, if that technicality solves the issue, however the objection from my in-laws' family is that if I can leave Shia sect, I could leave my lady too. But i am not willing to leave Islam and leaving Shia sect (that i don't practice fully, as stated earlier). However we strongly feel that as long as we remain in Islam things should be valid. Could me being a Sunni solve this issue?
In case you are a Sunni scholar or know someone who is one, can you please directly help us to reach you. It would be a huge help. Thanks in advance.