My question revolves around fitna. As far as I understand, fitna means temptation. What is confusing me is this. For some people, it is easier to fall into temptation than it is for other people to fall into temptation. Why is that?
At the moment, the only logic I can associate to this difference between people is that the easier it is for one to fall into fitna, maybe the more perverted/desperate they are? That would explain why some people fall into fitna easier than others.
However, the only problem with this assumption (even though it seems logical to me) is that other people say that there is something wrong with a person who does not fall into fitna easily... The problem here is that, to me it seems that such people are suggesting that it is normal and healthy for a man to be highly perverted/desperate and it is expected for a man to be highly perverted/desperate in islam. I hope this is not true, but this is what I have been told by certain people..
For example, I have been told that if a man sees a woman's ankle by accident (and then he looks away and does not look again and lowers his gave). After that, if the man is unable to concentrate for the rest of the day, because he can’t get the ankle he saw earlier in the day out of his mind, that is the level of perversion/desperation a healthy man should have in islam. Which to be honest, I find quiet repulsive that anyone would suggest that that is how a man should be...
Whereas, the same people have said, if a man accidentally sees a woman's ankle (and then looks away/lowers his gaze), and is able to go about his day without thinking about the ankle again, such a man has problems as he should have been tempted by that ankle, as in, he is not perverted/desperate enough. Personally, such a man seems more sane to me.
Is this true? All very confusing, and any clarification would be great. So if the question is not clear, does Islam recommend and expect men to be highly perverted/desperate to the extent that if they see an ankle by accident and then lower their gaze, they should not be able to concentrate for the rest of the day because they should be fantasizing about that ankle if they are healthy... As in, a healthy man should fall into temptation quickly and easily...
The 3 dots ... after certain sentences are to emphasize that I find such a thought disturbing.
I typed this to post to islamqa, but when I clicked submit question, I received a message saying "this page does not exist", which is the reason why I am posting here instead.