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I was sitting watching a movie with some of my friends and when the kissing scene came up I kind of looked away and didn't pay attention to it because I was raised that way. In my family we wouldn't watch movies with stuff like that, but descriptions aren't very accurate anymore and don't tell you everything. So if there was something happening that was unexpected we would cover our eyes.

I was sitting with some colleague friends from work, we are all Muslim, and a kissing scene was coming up and so I looked away and they made fun of me. I told them that it's haram to watch stuff like that, and on the day of judgement the eyes will say what they saw. They said that was stupid and told me to grow up. So I decided to ask.

Can someone please clarify?

  • It is not "Haram" to see someone kiss. The Sahaba have seen the Prophet kiss his grandsons Hassan & Hussain on their foreheads.But if you mean a kiss on the lips, then again it isnt explcitly Haram. But you will be watching non-mehram actors/actresses doing non-Islamic things on your TV including music which is a bigger concern So just be careful what you watch & everything depends on intention Allah knows our intentions better than us. At your age peer pressure can be factor. I pray to Allah to give you strength & a strong imaan. Ameen. – Ahmed May 31 '17 at 12:54
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Short Answer

Islam greatly insists on the privacy of intimacy between any married couples. All acts of intimacy, or of sexual nature, or that lead to arousal, are haram (unless it's with your spouse)

Long Answer

Let me tackle this with subpoints:

  1. When 2 people are kissing on the screen, it's almost always a haram relationship (bf/gf). Watching such relationships over and over again will contribute to culturally re-programming the viewer, and gradually make the viewer adapt to such a lifestyle. That's why nowadays we have bf/gf relationships all over the world, including China, and even Saudi Arabia, when 100 years ago such practices were strange and not practiced neithere in the Chinese or Arabian culture (also Haram).

  2. When your parents don't watch such scenes, I'm pretty sure they are "grown up". The reason they don't watch such things is that because they realize what's acceptable and what's haram. They have been raised this way, and our grandparents, usually, are far more commited to religion than us; they did not have internet, they did not have TV, they did not have random people talking about religion whose credibility are doubtful. I invite you to trust the values and moralities that Muslims have transferred every generation to its successor, and always doubt the new "trends" that appeared the last 50-100 years.

  3. Did you ever see or hear about pious Muslims kissing in public? Forget about Muslims, did you ever see or hear about pious religious Christians or Jews kissing in public? Why won't they do it? Did Muslims do it during the last 1400 years? Then why? If it's haram to do something in public, that means it's also haram for other to see you doing it; which is why you are only allowed to do it in private but not in public. Islam greatly insists on the privacy of intimacy between any married couples, and kissing definitely is an intimate act.

  4. Last but not least, Islam invites us to chastity, to virtue. Islam glorifies the relationship between the couple when it's within a lawful marriage. Sexuality is a natural instinct Allah has placed into all human beings. It's like a tiny flame inside the human soul. Watching such scenes of intimacy, is like pouring gasoline on that flame; It burns you inside. When you're married, you are constantly pouring gasoline on that flame, in a halal way, with your spouse; you won't even care about such scenes; but when you're single, you will not find any way to let the flames out of your soul, so you will burn inside; BUT if that fire keeps burning you for long, you will eventually seek to let its flames out..... the HARAM way.

I am not a Sheikh; I followed a logical approach to answer your question, but if you want a more religious answer from the Hadith and the Quran, you need to go to the nearest mosque.
Actually, learning your religion from the internet or stackexchange is very bad. Some people may purposefuly mislead you. BEWARE. Always visit your nearest mosque.
Salam Alyekum

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    I would like to know more about why you think it's misleading :) Care to explain ? – Ahmad Tn Jun 1 '17 at 4:10
  • It is simple, read your answer the explanation is in it. Even if the whole thing sounds self-contradictory to me. – Medi1Saif Jun 1 '17 at 6:08
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    If you're not willing to explain yourself, then please don't comment in the first place. – Ahmad Tn Jun 1 '17 at 12:07
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    I used my humble knowledge to explain what I know is considered a sin in Islam. I also recommended visiting the local mosque for a thorough explanation. If you believe it's not a sin, then I invite you to visit your local mosque as well. – Ahmad Tn Jun 1 '17 at 12:14

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