Recently my parents did matchmaking for me. After speaking with her, both the families and us have agreed on marriage.

However, I just came to learn from the bride-to-be that she had a relationship and she isn't a virgin. However, she told me it is already in her past.

Now it puts me in a great deal of dilemma. What does Islam say about that? I'm emotional at the moment but I want my religion to guide me through this to take the right decision. Please share your wisdom and proper references for my understanding.


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The fornicator does not marry except a [female] fornicator or polytheist, and none marries her except a fornicator or a polytheist, and that has been made unlawful to the believers.

Surah An-Nur, 24:3

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    – III-AK-III
    Commented May 29, 2017 at 20:15
  • Didn't you get the indication that she has repented?
    – Aboudi
    Commented May 29, 2017 at 21:16
  • Aboudi- I did not get any indication. If I get that, should I forgive her and carry on? How can I find it in my heart to do such act of forgiveness? Help me brothers with what our Quaran Sunnah say about forgiveness. However, I am also willing to guide her to repent for her sins if she hasn't already. Please help me here.
    – Din0744
    Commented May 30, 2017 at 0:54
  • @Din0744 Allah the most merciful can forgive who ever he wants for what ever action they carried out (except shirk), whether you forgive her or not it does not make a difference as it has not caused you any harm.
    – Aboudi
    Commented Jun 3, 2017 at 17:41

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