In regards to the ayah
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand. -- Quran 4:34
In the West, people sometimes quote this ayah to support their claim Islam promotes "wife beating". At the same time, parents in the West will strike their child for being disobedient, but they don't analogously to claim that Christianity promotes "child beating". It's even in the Bible:
Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. -- Proverbs 13:24
(along with stoning to death in Deuteronomy 21:18-21).
The conditions of what's appropriate and what's going too far in both striking one's rebellious wife and spanking one's disobedient child seem to overlap; basically, don't do it needlessly, nor cause injury (see: Does the Quran allow husbands punish their wives?).
Although it could be interpreted as condescending towards women, it seems like it would be useful point of comparison for Islamic speakers.
Question: Do Islamic speakers compare "strike them" in Qur'an 4:34 to spanking a disobedient child?