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Suppose a girl has issues with her monthly cycle and she took some hormone treatment to fix it and she is satisfied with the treatment. However she walks into marriage without sharing this detail with her potential husband and his family because she didn't know it could be that much big of a deal. Her husband is a doctor, but is freaked out after finding out when she explains it casually. Now he's thinking of divorce just after 2 weeks saying it was deception, that nikkah is based upon a lie because it could cause a serious fertility issue. However, it was discussed by the girl with various doctors and people who have gone through it and they said it is not a big deal can still be treated normal life continues.

This motivates the question:

How much information should be shared between potential husband and wife before marriage?

  • If the information does not affect normal life, the husband has the right to be upset and angry about hiding such information (because this info means the wife may have reproduction/fertility issues, I'm not a doctor), and if he wills to divorce, he has the right to do so.... BUT If the husband is slightly wise, and deeply loves his wife, and as long as this would have no effect on their future, he shall not go for divorce. – Ahmad Tn May 3 '18 at 7:23
  • As for your question: Sharing as much info as they feel comfortable, AND any information that may affect the future of the relationship, or that may change the way your spouse sees you (for the better or worse). For example, I'd like to know if my fiance is not virgin (because that info could change the way I see her), but she doesn't need to tell me the details and number of her previous relationships (given that she had repented). – Ahmad Tn May 3 '18 at 7:28
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Salaam,

This depends on if the information being shared is going to affect the future husband/wife in any practical way. Many times this question is asked in the vain of, "I had a haram relationship, but prayed tawba. Do I have to tell my future spouse?" and the answer depends on if you have something like an STD from it. If not, then no need to bring it up.

There are some general questions that should be asked for compatibility, and listing them here might be too much. What I recommend you do is go to www.mynikka.com and check out the "Getting Married" tab. There is a whole section on "Pre-Marriage Questions" that cover things like "how much debt you have" to "how many kids you want?"

Insha'Allah this helps.

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