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The past year and half, my husband only comes to me once in ten days to have sex with me once he comes (ejaculates) he promises me he'll come again as I want him physically near me, but he then will say he is tired, etc. This causes an argument and resentment towards him; it's okay for me to please him, but shouldn't it be equal--both of our enjoyment. We have always had an active sex life; we both enjoy it and both love pleasing each other as it's important, but I am not happy with these selfish actions, so I feel resentment.
I want to know: Can my husband refuse sex, and what can I do about it?