I am trying to get married to someone I really like, and I have talked to her for 3 months now, not about anything bad but I know this is not the appropriate thing to do. I was not the best Muslim before I have made many major sins for two years which I do not wish to name.
I met this girl in my third year and she helped me change my ways and showed me Islam through a different direction. She helped me get back to praying, and now alhamdulillah I try to pray 5-6 times a day. It has now been three months, and I am afraid to continue speaking with her because of fitnah and zina. I do not want to accumulate sins because of this relation.
I told my parents about her, but they are not willing to get in contact with her and neither are they willing to see how the family is. Their answer is no because she as spoke to me before, and they think she is a bad person for speaking with me about marrying her. They say that it is their right to choose my spouse, and because I brought this topic up to them they are ashamed of me. They say their answer is no because she is Pashtun and we are Punjabi.
I don't know how I can convince my parents to talk to her and let us get married. They are not happy with this relation because of the reasons I have listed. But I do not know what to do. I hope to be with this girl, and I have searched up that these reasons are not valid. Can you help me understand my situation and show me what is right to do in this situation?