I am 28 years old and doing a job in a multinational company. By the grace of Allah I'm now in a suitable position to think of marriage, and I have committed myself to a girl to marry.
Due to my father's illness, our guardian is our elder brother.
My father has been paralysed for 20 years, and is living outside the country with his family. Last time he visited us, I told him about the girl whom I committed to. He met the girl and said he liked her.
My mother is unable to give any decision without my brother's permission. But my vabi (brother's wife) did not agree on this matter. She thinks after 1 year when I'll be better prepared.
On the other side the girl's family is unable to wait longer, because they have waited long enough for my family's decision. In that case her father looking for another man to marry her, but she refused. She also tried to negotiate with my family, but my elder brother disagrees with this.
In this case what can I do? I have few days left to take decision.