I know a lot of questions are asked about relationships before marriage. Yet my question is somehow different.

We know that Physical Attractiveness plays a very important role in creating a bond between a couple.

The problem is that it's not confined to face only. It embraces all physical attributes of men and women.

Face is something that we see, and it's not strictly prohibited by Islam. Yet other parts, specially reproductive organs are of course in the red zone.

With the spread of external sexual stimuli that needs true matches between men and women to save their marriage and faith through difficult world of Media, how one can make sure that the person he/she is choosing as future spouse is actually physically attractive to him/her?

  • If we put it simply, you are asking that if by any means, we can allow people to see the "reproductive organs", as you said, to make sure that both like one another's... – Zia Ul Rehman Mughal Aug 18 '16 at 7:54
  • Note that scholars allow to see the face and hands, some go further in allowing to see the feet and neck or even to see the fiancée without hijab. Ibn Hazm even said if possible one should try to see as much as he can except her 'awrah and can ask a woman to take a look at her and tell him about her body. – Medi1Saif Aug 18 '16 at 8:11
  • @Medi1Saif Isn't the awrah of a woman everything except hands and face? – G. Bach Aug 18 '16 at 11:33
  • @G.Bach There are many views: The mainline is that hands and face are not 'awrah. Some add feet some legs as there's a difference between the covered (which is needed for prayer) and uncovered (which can be seen by foreigners based on "..except that which appears thereof .." in 24:31) 'awrah and if taken literally al-'Awza'i said a fiancé can see any part which is considered as "flesh" from the body of his fiancée. Ibn Hazm supported this and said he can see anything of her no matter if it is covered or uncovered I'm still trying to understand the 'awrah in his statement in al-muhalla! – Medi1Saif Aug 18 '16 at 11:47

May Allah guide us all.

The basis

Physical Attractiveness is not necessarily is the most important factors, as the prophet said, there are several factors, so choose religion before another:

It was narrated from Abdullah bin Amr that:

the Prophet said: “Do not marry women for their beauty for it may lead to their doom. Do not marry them for their wealth, for it may lead them to fall into sin. Rather, marry them for their religion. A black slave woman with piercings who is religious is better.”

It is worth to mention that we should always remember to lower our gaze and do not go beyond aurah that should be covered.

The proposed answer

Although the following is the proposed way for those who took Physical Attractiveness important.

A guy can always ask her 'mahram' (those who can check on his behalf, such as her mother, sister, father or female friends) to check upon his preference.

Personally, I won't go that far. I will feel very ashamed to ask her for personal preference or state any requirements. I just accept and appreciate my partner as well as I am accepting my body god has given me.

Her mahram should not tell you how she look like, nor should one take a picture of her body parts that is haram to reveal to others. But to confirm whether or not does she fit and meet his preference.

The future

Being attractive is beyond physical look. An attractive people are those that keep a healthy life and a healthy relationship.

Islam thought us to lower our gaze. One cannot deny the desire of wanting to try other women if we do not lower our gaze. Even if you have the most beautiful women in the world as your wife. Each women are beautiful, by look and by personality.

No women are desirable when she is not healty.

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  • Of course it's important. I'm a male muslim, and as I live through my day I see ads showing very attractive women, I search for articles related to my job and I see pictures of semi-nude women. I turn on the TV and I see women. It's not the old era in which all you could see in years was the arm of a woman by peeking. Nudism is all around us. As a male muslim, I do need to be satisfied with the body of my future wife, to be able to hold on to my beliefs. – Saeed Neamati Aug 20 '16 at 8:18
  • There is no shame in doing whatever it takes to keep your beliefs. That's how I think. – Saeed Neamati Aug 20 '16 at 8:20
  • What I mean is, I feel ashamed to even set any requirement to my wife. I accept her as she was. – Nik Aug 20 '16 at 10:57
  • I have edit my answer, I am sorry if you have misunderstood it before. – Nik Aug 20 '16 at 11:04
  • Mr Saeed, we should always remember to lower our gaze. – Nik Aug 20 '16 at 11:14

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