I married my wife without my parent/guardian's permission; is it valid?

Question

My mother refuses marriage with a girl (my cousin's sister in law). She says the girl's status is not same as me, and she lives in a village, that means my family is only concern to the social status.

However, we got married in front of quazi and in that occasion two of my wife's cousins were present, and there were witnesses also, but we still didn't announce our marriage to our family members because they will got hurt.

We thought our family issue will be managed, and we will get married again by their permission, but the scenario is different and not as we thought; my guardian is too strict and they are not allowing me to do so.

• If I want to listen to my family then I'll have to divorce (secretly) that girl.
• If I don't then I'll have to announce the marriage to society.

Question: Is our marriage valid?

The marriage is already done by papers, although the marriage is not valid by Allah. So the papers/kabin is just like an agreement now, not kabin (my understanding).

This question is a continuation from Should I marry a Muslim girl without my parents' permission?

Answer 1

First thing, this site is not support site, personal detailed daily life questions is not suggested in this site. However, I will try to explain some points I think you misunderstood.

Don't get it wrong, Islam highly suggest marriage which provides continuum of Islam. If you and your wife will be religious in your marriage, you should continue marriage and announce to everyone to be valid in Islam. Having problem with you family is not first concern of Islam. Allah ask from us to obey his rules and live your life in these rules. In your situation, it seems you are having conflict with two rules of Islam:

1. Get Marriage
2. Obey your parents

Situations like this, you need to look from above and think consequences of your actions;

Is your marriage will lead you an Islamic life?

Is obeying your parent will lead you an Islamic life?

There are 4 outcomes of these questions:

1. Yes, Yes: If both of outcome leads you to Islamic life, It's up to you. You can decide to make your parent happy. Or you can decide to make your wife happy.
2. Yes, No: In this part you should choose your marriage. If your parents concern is not an Islamic life, you don't have to obey them. Primary concern of Islam believing Allah and living your life in His way. If your parent suggest other way you don't have to obey them. Don't get frustrated from pain of this life which comes to you because of living Islam. Allah will reward you so many different way in this life or hereafter.
3. No, Yes: Obviously you should obey your parents and abandon your marriage. However, I must add that divorce is halal in Islam but never highly suggested.
4. No, No: This is up to you also. You should decide with your concerns. However, as I mentioned, Islam doesn't offer divorce as a first option.