Me and my girlfriend want to get married but our parents will never agree just because I'm a Sunni and she is Shia. We really want to get married and not be involved in haram.

If a girl is not a virgin, can nikah be valid without a wali?

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  • If she is shia, than she can marry without parent's consent, islam.stackexchange.com/a/260/15642 . But, it is just validity of nikah, other than that, you should actually try to convince your parents. At-least try. And even though, being in relationship of a GF and BF is already haraam what you are doing. Even without being physical or anything, it is still haraam. But its good you are trying to turn it to halal. Apr 12, 2016 at 18:16
  • I would have tried asking my parents but they already told earlier if i fall in love with a girl and she is not sunni and if i wanna be with her i should forget that i ever had a home. And her case is worse then this Apr 17, 2016 at 6:01
  • What about her family Apr 25, 2016 at 15:49
  • Are you sure you guys will be happy in such relation? I have seem a lot of such relations that end terribly. Dec 11, 2016 at 13:24

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Parents consent in such matters is necessary because finding a suitable girl/boy for their son/daughter is an obligatory duty upon them. Therefore Prophet Mohammad has said: "To whoever is born a child, the child should be given a good name and sound education. And when he becomes of age he should be married" (hadith).

The only way to marry her is to convert her to Sunni Islam. In this way, you will get married with her and your parents will have no objection.

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