I am a Muslim revert. My mother is not Muslim.
I want to change my name. I already have it picked out, and I love it. I started using it with some of my friends and business associates.
But I wanted to tell my mother about it so I can change it on FB without shocking her, and then eventually I want to change it legally as well.
I know it is not required, but this is something I want to do for myself. I've always hated my birth name, and she knows this. I used to tell her when I was a child that I was going to change my name when I turned 18. I never went through with it, but she knows my feelings.
However, much to my surprise, she was totally against me changing my name. The name I want to take is Abdullah. She said she feels “very uncomfortable” with it.
She herself brought it up again after almost a week of the first conversation, and reiterated she felt “very uncomfortable” with it, and would always feel uncomfortable.
So what are my options? I'm 27 years old, married, and living far away from her. Is it disobeying her to change my name anyway? I don't care honestly what she herself calls me, or anyone else in my family. I just want to change it for myself, and for my interactions with other people.