All praise be to Allah.
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has
made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to
support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are
devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their husbands), and guard in the
husband’s absence what Allaah order them to guard (e.g., their
chastity, their husband’s property, etc.). As to those women on whose
part you fear ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to
share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but
if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of
annoyance). Surely, Allaah is Ever Most High, Most Great.” [al-Nisaa’
If it is the husband who is mistreating his wife, that does not mean that she should remain oppressed or that her hands are tied. She has the right – just as the husband has – to warn and advise him, and to remind him to fear Allaah. If that does not work, she can seek the help of wise people among his relatives and her own, and they can advise him. If this does not work, then the matter can be taken to a qaadi (Muslim judge) who can force him to do the right thing – and Allaah is above them all.
When Islam differentiates between the sexes, it is in the interests of both, and this is the essence of wisdom. Unlike a man, a woman does not have to pray and fast when she has her period, out of consideration for her condition.
She does not have to spend on her husband, because he is stronger and more able to earn a living. In return, she has to obey him and ask his permission before leaving the house; the reverse does not apply. In the event of a separation, it is the mother, and not the father, who has the right to custody of the children. And there are other rulings which are based on an acknowledgment of the differences between the sexes. Can we then say that this is oppression or unfair discrimination? No, by Allaah, this is justice and wisdom, revealed by the Wise, All-Aware, All-Knowing, All-Seeing.
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And Allah knows best.