Salaams My Name is Mohamed a week ago my wife and I were having a huge fight over email.With anger I emailed her the following but had no intention of even stating talaaq.Inshallah you can provide me with the best explanation. “You said the only way you can have your life back is by me giving you your talaaks then you got it”

I would like your help with clarification on this as I did not intend for this.

  • First divorce is something serious and one should really be careful in even thinking of it. 2nd what does your wife think about the matter?
    – Medi1Saif
    Nov 20, 2015 at 9:18
  • 1st you said that in anger 2nd you didn't have the intention to. And from what you wrote it was 1 talaq, even if i passed by a fatwa saying even if one writes it 3 times it does count only as one (some scholars apparently don't even accept this form of talaq). Q: Have you performed talaq before? Then it has a "chance" to be a very serious matter. Consult a scholar
    – Medi1Saif
    Nov 26, 2015 at 13:07

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Before your question can be answered, one should understand what marriage is. Marriage is a social contract. Just like any other contract, this contract also has to fulfill certain requirements. For example, in most cultures one has to complete the paper work and formally get it registered with the relevant authorities. In other cultures, there must be an open verbal announcement. Open verbal announcement means one should have witnesses, who can later testify that the contract actually took place if required. If there are no witnesses or there exists no paper work, no court in the world is going to accept that any contract took place.

Similarly, when one wants to get out of a marriage contract, one should either do the paper work or should make an open verbal announcement that contract is not valid any more. If none of these conditions are met, there are no legal grounds to say that contract is void.

Now coming to your situation, what you did was spur of the moment thing and you had no real intention of doing that. We hold this point here and take a look at how Quran approaches this issue of marriage contract termination. It requires that when one intends to terminate the contract, he should do so at an appropriate time, i.e., when woman is not menstruating, take two witnesses (who are sufficiently acquainted with the situation, according to Muhammad Asad) and also take God as your witness.

These requirements from Quran are mandatory. When you follow them, then spur of the moment decision would be impossible and the decision to terminate the contract would be well advised. It is further said in the Surah if you ignore these injunctions you would only torment yourself.

You did not follow these injunctions, as result are experiencing a hell of your own making and find yourself hanging in between.

Traditional Islamic jurists are inclined towards the opinion that even if you didn’t intend the termination of the contract, mere utterance of the words enforces the termination. But this is merely their opinion, and it is not binding on you.

IMO Talaaq is not a magic word. It’s not akin to saying “aabra cadabra“ and something happens. I find the traditional jurists’ opinion faulty and worthless. It doesn’t take into account the termination is last resort after you have exhausted all other options. And this is not the case with you, you neither intended it nor your options are exhausted. Just like a marriage is only possible when you are of sound and calm mind and have the intention, similarly termination or talaaq is only possible when you are of sound and calm mind and have the intention. Based on the above reasoning, I’m of the opinion that your talaaq didn’t happen.

You should relax and think calmly if what has been written above makes sense to you or not. Final decision rests with you.

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    I like your answer and do agree with the logic behind. But assuming we see it in a narrow scholar view and assuming this was qualified as talaq he still could get his wife back as this isn't a 3x talaq and not final, most simple way if they had intercourse before the end of the waiting period!
    – Medi1Saif
    Nov 20, 2015 at 9:18
  • Yes, if we assume that Talaq did happen, it would be counted as a first one and they can get back living together. Asad's view is only about who the witnesses should be. For him they have to be well aware of the situation, would have probably acted as mediators as well. Nov 26, 2015 at 7:44
  • Well i heard a lot about Mohammad Asad but unfortunatly never read something from him, any recommendations?
    – Medi1Saif
    Nov 26, 2015 at 8:00
  • Islam at Cross Roads is a timeless book. In Asad's opinion the essence of western civilization is different from ours but still there is much to gain for both of them from each other. Nov 27, 2015 at 14:01
  • Road to Mekkah is a memoir and gives an insight into his though process. Perhaps one should read this first before reading his other works as it gives you an idea of how analyses things. After this you can his commentary on Quran and his other works. Nov 27, 2015 at 14:03

To issue talaq, you do not need to utter the word talaq. If you say something that means talaq and you say it with that intention, it count as talaq, for example "You are free from me from now on"

Coming to your word “You said the only way you can have your life back is by me giving you your talaaks then you got it”, that is counted as talaq (strictly speaking) but fortunately it is counted as one talaq not three (even if you had intentions of three at the time). I would suggest to tie the knot again as it is perfectly legal and it is good to be safe.

On a defensive note, one somebody says something "you got it" it generally is not final and needs confirmation. For example, consider the following conversation. Dad: "Remeber I told you if you topped the class, I would buy you a car". Son: "Yes.". Dad: "You got it!". At this point, the son is expected to say "Really?","Are you going to buy me a car?" something of that sort. And father is suppose to say, "Yes, look outside, that's your new car". He confirms it after afterwards. So on defensive side, she really needed to ask, "did you really mean it?" and if you confirmed that, "Yes" or "Yes, I have divorce you" then that would be divorce without doubt.

So there is still doubt in your case. You might want to take the case either way as you wish.

By the way talaq in menstruation does not count. If she was menstruating at the time than you have nothing to worry about :)

Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar: AbdurRahman ibn Ayman, the client of Urwah, asked Ibn Umar and AbuzZubayr was was listening: What do you think if a man divorces his wife while she is menstruating? He said: Abdullah ibn Umar divorced his wife while she was menstruating during the time of the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him).So Umar asked the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) saying: Abdullah ibn Umar divorced his wife while she was menstruating. Abdullah said: He returned her to me and did not count it (the pronouncement) anything. He said: When she is purified, he may divorce her or keep her with him. Ibn Umar said: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) recited the Qur'anic verse: O Prophet, when you divorce women, divorce them in the beginning of their waiting period."


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