I am attracted to men (I am a boy). There is an attractive boy in my school and I can’t even speak to him. When he passes by me, my heartbeats go to the highest level. I love him and can’t spend only a second of my life without thinking about him.

Now I want some guidance that what should I put on this bad situation. Is kissing haram? (Male and male)

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    shows absolutely no research effort. – user549 Oct 18 '15 at 20:02
  • Son Simple reply to this is yeah it is Haram ask your parents to help you in it. – Faqirah Oct 19 '15 at 2:26
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    Not only is kissing haram but the whole thought that you have. Male + male = haraam. Famale + female = haram. When Adam was alone, Allah (swt) created Hawwa (Eve) not another male for him. – Zohal Oct 19 '15 at 12:41
  • You are His creation, just be who you are. – Jason Han Aug 8 '17 at 9:29

In the name of God, the Most Merciful, the Most Kind.



I understand you well, and this is a devil’s whispers and Homosexuality is a big crime inherited from the people of LUT. Because of the enormity of this sin, a severe punishment struck them. I think it is a test from God Almighty, and I suggest you ask forgiveness from God because He Says:

”And God does not burden a soul with more than it can bear.”

My advice for you is to ask God Almighty to forgive you because God Says:

”O you who believe! Turn to God with sincere repentance!” [Quran, 66:8]

”And beg God to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.” [Surah An-Noor, 31]

”Truly, God loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves.” [Quran, 2:222]

Also, try your best to do more good deeds because God Almighty Says:

”Except those who repent and do righteous deeds, and openly declare (the truth which they concealed). These, I will accept their repentance. And I am the One Who accepts repentance, the Most Merciful.” Quran, [2:160]

And my final advice for you is, try your best to ignore this feeling that you have and pray a lot. Recite the following verses:

1) The Throne Verse( Ayat al Kursi)

2) The Cow( Al Bakara)

And think of God always, fear Him a lot, remember the story when God Almighty saw the people of Sodomy they were committing the worst sins ever and God punished them, keep saying to yourself: “I am much better than those who lived in the city called Sodomy”, be more occupied on your studdings and on how to do more good deeds and be more occupied with Islam and think of how to make God be happy with you.

I hope that this is a good answer. If there’s anything wrong in here, please let me know.

And God knows best.

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                                    In the name of Allah

Uh, @mate, based on what you have illustrated, as you probably agree with that, it could be related to the negative thoughts or actually to satanic feelings. There would be some different points as solution for you, which I name some of them.

  • Recite the following Zikr (several times) whenever you are thinking about that.
                            اعوذ بالله من الشیطان الرجیم
  • Endeavor not to place in the locations which leads to see or encounter him … , and try to looking at other places in order to prevent looking at him …
  • Endeavor to make yourself busy by different acts (such as talking mobile phone, your class-mates, and so on) whenever your mind in thinking about that.
  • Finally, don’t forget that those kinds of thoughts can be counted as haram thought (as sins in your “report card, in Doomsday!”, besides, it seems that you are a good and pretty religious guy who have asked such question in order to find a good solution in order to get rid of that sinful situation. Therefore trust Allah, and don’t forget the Zekr of اعوذ بالله من الشیطان الرجیم

Concerning your last question, concerning kissing of male (to male), it would be permissible in normal form of that in the greetings. But dear mate, it is just permissible in normal condition. Namely: in a normal form as it is done as a custom in Islamic countries..., not in the way of kissing with sinful thoughts in mind. Thus kissing male to male would be haram if it is done with negative and bad intention such as enjoyment… (Even in the mind).



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    it should be more elaborated as kissing male to male is not allowed except on cheeks without desire as it is a custom in mostly Arabs but it is disliked and should be avoided. – Faqirah Oct 19 '15 at 13:59
  • Yeah, It is an important point as you pointed out "it should be more elaborated as kissing male to male is not allowed except on cheeks without desire as it is a custom". / Of course I meant it is OK if you do it at custom ... (by saying " it is just permissible in normal condition"). /// I'll edit it not and add what you stated more accurate. – اللهم صل علی محمد و آل محمد Oct 20 '15 at 7:52

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