I'm an 18 year old girl, student with a good life. Alhamdulellah. I love Islam and Allah and I always try my best to follow the rules of it. Some would describe me as a good Muslim, and some would disagree.
I pray 5 times a day, fast, always try to treat people in an Islamic manner. I wear the Hijab and I love it, alhamdulellah. My clothes are mostly modest and do not show skin.
Lately, my dad has been shouting at me because he wants me to wear the Abaya (long black clothing Muslims often wear to look modest), and I understand why he wants me to. He said he would even hit me and be violent for him to force me to wear it. But I can't get myself to wear it, especially now. I want to wear it slowly with time and not any time soon. I want to wear it because of Allah, not my dad. Because of Religion, not tradition. I don't even need to wear one because my clothes are already modest and Islamic.
I just don't want to wear it and I'm not about to. Especially because my 'dad wants me to'. It's my life, my deen.
My question is, does Islam actually allow family members to FORCE their daughters into wearing a certain piece of clothing? Is it not haram? Is voilence acceptable in order for a girl to do something traditional that the father wants?
How can I make my father understand what I mean?
لَا إِكْرَاهَ فِي الدِّينِ•