"…and he who refuses to accept an invitation to a marriage feast, verily disobeys Allah and His Prophet”. (Ahmad & Abu Dawood)"

I've been invited to a wedding where I know there will be free mixing, men and women flirty, touching each other, kissing in public, partial nudity, dressed in tight clothing etc. I know they will have music and dancing. The music will have inappropriate words too.

Will I be disobeying Allah and his Prophet's command by not going to such a wedding?


Extract from fatwa at islamqa:

But the scholars have stipulated conditions for accepting an invitation; if these conditions are not met then it is not obligatory or mustahabb to accept the invitation, rather it may be haraam to attend. These conditions were summed up by Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen, who said:

  1. There should be nothing objectionable (munkar) in the place where the party etc. is to be held. If there is something objectionable and it is possible to remove it, then it is obligatory to attend for two reasons: to accept the invitation and to change the objectionable thing. If it is not possible to remove it then it is haraam to attend.


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  • Your answer is essentially a fiqh answer. What about socially -- how should he respond to the inviter? – ashes999 Sep 5 '12 at 19:32
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    Yeah, I think the use of the practical-islam is intentional here. How to practically handle the situation? – Pureferret Sep 5 '12 at 19:40
  • @oshirowanen what about the other side of the coin? What if I have a friend whom I want to invite to my wedding or someones's else and in my religion this is ok, I mean the music, dancing, etc? But at the same time I have no intention offending my friend and at the same time cherish him a lot and I wish he was there? – Eugene Sep 5 '12 at 21:02
  • please mention the school of fitwa. – Battle of Karbala Sep 6 '12 at 4:52

According to Jafari Fiqh participating in such wedding is not permissible (Haram) and while not participating you should talk them in a polite manner and explain them it is sin and warn them and try to change their mind about such action (Nahy min Munkar). But if you think there is no probability of accepting you then it is not obligatory to talk them in order to prevent them from sin.


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