If men and women are in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship and are committed to each other and are seeking to get married down the lane, then why does Islam forbid such a relationship? What is the harm in such a relationship?

If both are devoted and are seeking marriage why not be able to have sex?

I'd like the translated excerpts from the holy book that specifically states that such a relationship is haram and that any contact including intercourse while in such a relationship is haram as well.

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    honestly i feel you are just looking for an excuse.
    – Jack Twain
    Commented Jun 16, 2014 at 18:35
  • Do you know the future?
    – Aboudi
    Commented Oct 29, 2014 at 22:28

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if you are so committed and are planning to get married in future , then whats the harm in marrying now?

if your answer to this question is : we are studying or we want to get devoted to our career we are not financially stable.

then my question will be what if (god forbade) in future you were unable to meet your goal, then will you not marry that person?

if your answer to this question is Yes we will still marry then i think you can marry now also.

if your answer is NO, then have you ever thought about the future of your child(if any) due to your relationship which is not legal. and what about the emotional harm that you cause to the other person.

  • Is that your opinion or "Islam's" opinion? I mean where in the quran or haditz is this actually explained? Why not married? Many reasons. Say you don't like rules made by your government governing marriage.
    – user4234
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 7:45
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    @SharenEayrs in islam premarital sex is haram. this is not my personal opinion.
    – Zia
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 10:16
  • And you didn't mention that in your answer. Instead you mumble about something else. I am not asking if that something else is right or wrong. Is it islam? Or is it your opinion?
    – user4234
    Commented Aug 5, 2015 at 12:35
  • @SharenEayrs what do you mean? what reasons? what rules?
    – qdinar
    Commented Jul 12, 2017 at 7:39

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