I am a non muslim female living in the West. I married a muslim man here in the states 10 years ago. We have an 8 years old child. We had both a civil marriage and an Islamic wedding officiated by an imam (Nikah).
After my son was born, I asked him to leave the house (personal reasons). Eventually after 5 years without anyone in my life waiting for my husband to get his act together, I filed for a civil divorce. He was no where to be found so I went through the proper procedures through court and they granted me a divorce without his presence.
My question is since we had both a civil and an Islamic wedding, are we still married according to the Islamic law? He says we are still married and did not get divorced since he has been in Morocco (not there when I issued the divorce paper). If we decided to get back together, since we have not been together for so long, do we have to get married again according to the teachings of Islam?