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You will still find a lot of Fatwas where some scholars say that a woman who rejects to have intercourse with her husband is "nashiz ناشز" and can be punished and that she should obey if her husband wants to have intercourse. For example here (in Arabic) an extreme fatwa where the scholar seems to allow rape and refer to other fatwas on how to punish the wife etc.!

You will still find a lot of Fatwas where some scholars say that a woman who rejects to have intercourse with her husband is "nashiz ناشز" and can be punished and that she should obey if her husband wants to have intercourse. For example here (in Arabic) an extreme fatwa where the scholar seems to allow rape and refer to other fatwas on how to punish the wife etc.!
Quoting the hanafi book Hashiyat ibn 'Abideen also known as Radd-al-Muhtaar:
^{Here and in the following I'll be translating from Arabic language, as these translation are mostly of my own take them carefully!}

لأن من أحكام النكاح حل استمتاع كل منهما بالآخر، نعم له وطؤها جبرا إذا امتنعت بلا مانع شرعي وليس لها إجباره على الوطء بعدما وطئها مرة (Source)
Because one of the rules of marriage is the permissibility of each of them enjoying the other. Yes, he may have intercourse with her forcibly if she refuses without a legal impediment, and she does not have the right to force him to have intercourse after he has had intercourse with her once.

The author of the fatwa introduced this saying:

وإذا امتنعت الزوجة من الفراش دون عذر، فهي عاصية وناشز، ويجوز للزوج جبرها على الجماع حينئذ.
If the wife refuses to have intercourse without excuse, then she is disobedient and disobedient, and the husband may force her to have intercourse at that time.

Abu Huraira (Allah he pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may, peace be upon him) as saying: When a man invites his wife to his bed and she does not come, and he (the husband) spends the sight being angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.

[Sahih al-Bukhari & Muslim, Sunan abi Dawod]

• Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you

should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."

[Sahih al-Bukhari]

Abu Huraira (Allah he pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may, peace be upon him) as saying: When a man invites his wife to his bed and she does not come, and he (the husband) spends the sight being angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.

[Sahih al-Bukhari & Muslim, Sunan abi Dawod]

• Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."

  [Sahih al-Bukhari]

Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."

[Sahih al-Bukhari] But as an opposite we find an other golden rule about gentleness, which should also be applied in a husband-wife relationship!

Al-Miqdam ibn Shurayh, quoting his father, said: I asked Aisha about living in the desert. She said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) used to go to the desert to these rivulets. Once he intended to go to the desert and he sent to me a she-camel from the camel of sadaqah which had not been used for riding so far. He said to me: Aisha! show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it beautifies it and when it is taken out from anything it damages it.

Ibn al-Sabbah said in his version: Muharramah means a mount which has not been used for riding.

[Sunan abi Dawod]

• And in Hajjat al wada' the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "...So act kindly towards women" as narrated by abi Huraira (in Sahih al-Bukhari & Muslim and Jami' at-Tirmidhi]
• And about forcing some one to do something we find the following Verse:

Some mufassirin said that the forcing here is seen in relation to the desire of chastity. As in case of a chaste woman/wife forcing isn't possible or at least valid. Therefore the majority of scholars consider a marriage where the woman has been forced to marry a man as invalid قال ابن بطال : ذهب الجمهور إلى بطلان نكاح المكره!

• Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you

should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."

[Sahih al-Bukhari]

But as an opposite we find an other golden rule about gentleness, which should also be applied in a husband-wife relationship!

• Al-Miqdam ibn Shurayh, quoting his father, said:
  I asked Aisha about living in the desert. She said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) used to go to the desert to these rivulets. Once he intended to go to the desert and he sent to me a she-camel from the camel of sadaqah which had not been used for riding so far. He said to me: Aisha! show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it beautifies it and when it is taken out from anything it damages it.
  Ibn al-Sabbah said in his version: Muharramah means a mount which has not been used for riding. [Sunan abi Dawod]

• And in Hajjat al wada' the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "...So act kindly towards women" as narrated by abi Huraira (in Sahih al-Bukhari & Muslim and Jami' at-Tirmidhi)

• And about forcing some one to do something we find the following Verse:

Some mufassireen said that the forcing here is seen in relation to the desire of chastity. As in case of a chaste woman/wife forcing isn't possible or at least valid. Thus the majority of scholars considers a marriage where the woman has been forced to marry a man as invalid قال ابن بطال : ذهب الجمهور إلى بطلان نكاح المكره!