Adam's/Eve's Apple in Islam

Question

In Islam there is a big controversy about who ate the Apple first, unlike Christianity where Eve ate the apple first. So who ate it first? Or did they eat it at the same time?

Reasons for controversy

In Quran God said:

فَوَسْوَسَ إِلَيْهِ الشَّيْطَانُ قَالَ يَا آدَمُ هَلْ أَدُلُّكَ عَلَى شَجَرَةِ الْخُلْدِ وَمُلْكٍ لّا يَبْلَى
Then Satan whispered to him; he said, "O Adam, shall I direct you to the tree of eternity and possession that will not deteriorate?" [20:120]

So it is Adam who ate it??

While in another verse in Quran God Said:

فَدَلاَّهُمَا بِغُرُورٍ فَلَمَّا ذَاقَا الشَّجَرَةَ بَدَتْ لَهُمَا سَوْآتُهُمَا وَطَفِقَا يَخْصِفَانِ عَلَيْهِمَا مِن وَرَقِ الْجَنَّةِ وَنَادَاهُمَا رَبُّهُمَا أَلَمْ أَنْهَكُمَا عَن تِلْكُمَا الشَّجَرَةِ وَأَقُل لَّكُمَا إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ لَكُمَا عَدُوٌّ مُّبِي
So he made them fall, through deception. And when they tasted of the tree, their private parts became apparent to them, and they began to fasten together over themselves from the leaves of Paradise. And their Lord called to them, "Did I not forbid you from that tree and tell you that Satan is to you a clear enemy?" [7:22]

so now it is Adam and Eve?? and again, In another verse God said:

وَلَقَدْ عَهِدْنَا إِلَى آدَمَ مِن قَبْلُ فَنَسِيَ وَلَمْ نَجِدْ لَهُ عَزْمًا
And We had already taken a promise from Adam before, but he forgot; and We found not in him determination.[20:115]

so is it Adam??

But again!! Mohammed (pbuh) said in Hadith?

لولا الحواء لم تخن أنثى زوجها الدهر
If not for Eve, no women ever cheated her husband.
رواه البخاري في صحيحه في كتاب الأنبياء (3152) و(3218) , ورواه مسلم في كتاب الرضاع (1470) ورواه الإمام أحمد في مواضع عدة من المسند.

So now it is Eve!!

These are not all verses from Quran and Hadiths that has opposite meaning (or at least it seems like it has opposite meanings) which is the reason why some Muslims argue about this issue.

Answer 1

I don't believe that this is a good question; there is no controversy to begin with. The story is clearly outlined in the Qur'an. From Surah Baqarah:

But Satan caused them to slip out of it and removed them from that [condition] in which they had been. And We said, "Go down, [all of you], as enemies to one another, and you will have upon the earth a place of settlement and provision for a time." See: Surah Baqarah

The Arabic clearly outlines "fa azallahumaa ash-shaytaan," that Satan caused them both to slip into the forbidden. There is no question of "Eve did it and therefore all women carry original sin until the end of time."

Answer 2

It is not apple, it is "semerat" which means "the crop of plants and trees". The answer lies in the meaning of "semerat". Adam's story is a key to understanding how humans become caliphs one Earth. "Eating the semerat" was not an event which happend in a few hour, a few days, or a few months. I took maybe millions of years.

That story is mostly about development of soul in humans, and how humans become different from animals. We have to acknowledge that stories in Quran are carrying far far far more meaning that we can even imagine. They are not simple dialogs and conversations that we human do in our daily lives.

So, there is no simple answer to this question. Because this question contains a lot of other hidden questions inside, which are to be answered beforehand. Like "What does the thing (semarat) that Adam eat symbolize?", "What was the purpose of Devil, how did it dare to defy Allah?", etc.