Take the 2-minute tour ×
Islam Stack Exchange is a question and answer site for Muslims, experts in Islam, and those interested in learning more about Islam. It's 100% free, no registration required.

I read somewhere that Umar forbade Ayesha to mourn over her father's death because according to him, her father would be chastised if she mourns him.

Therefore, I'm just curious about the official position of Sunni islam about this matter.

Thanks

share|improve this question
add comment

1 Answer 1

Mourning is allowed and/or mandatory but with conditions :

  • The widow is obliged to mourn 4 months and 10 days
    • If she's pregnant then, the mourn time will be during all the pregnancy time
  • The woman whose one of her relatives died is allowed for 3 days of mourning

According to this hadith,

Zainab bint Abu Salamah (May Allah be pleased with them) said: I went to Umm Habibah (May Allah be pleased with her) the wife of the Prophet (PBUH), when her father Abu Sufyan bin Harb (May Allah be pleased with him) died. Umm Habibah (May Allah be pleased with her) sent for a yellow coloured perfume or something else like it, and she applied it to a slave-girl and then rubbed it on her own cheeks and said: "By Allah, I have no need for perfume, I heard the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) saying from the pulpit, 'It is not permissible for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn for the dead beyond three days, except for the death of her husband; in which case the period of mourning is of four months and ten days."' Zainab said: I then visited Zainab, daughter of Jahsh (May Allah be pleased with her) when her brother died; she sent for perfume and applied it and then said: "Beware! By Allah, I don't feel any need of perfume but I heard the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) saying from the pulpit, 'It is not permissible for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn the dead beyond three days except in case of her husband (for whom the period is) four months and ten days.

Al-Bukhari and Muslim

And in Another hadith,

Narrated Um 'Atiyya: We were forbidden to mourn for more than three days for a dead person, except for a husband, for whom a wife should mourn for four months and ten days (while in the mourning period) we were not allowed to put kohl in our eyes, nor perfume our-selves, nor wear dyed clothes, except a garment of 'Asb (special clothes made in Yemen). But it was permissible for us that when one of us became clean from her menses and took a bath, she could use a piece of a certain kind of incense. And it was forbidden for us to follow funeral processions.

Al-Bukhary

See this about من أحكام العِدَّة والحِداد More reading on the fatwa page in arabic

according to the 2nd link, Hanafi's view that it is not allowed for the women to wear Black only if her husband dies. While theMalikis said it is permissible excluding that the black is not something that is considered an adornment in her country/city

share|improve this answer
    
I was told that it was almost mandatory to mourn, not simply 'allowed'. i.e. if someone's family member dies within 3 days or a woman's husband dies within 4 months, it's in poor taste for the person to enjoy themselves. –  Muz Jan 18 '13 at 3:02
1  
Yes, you are right, it is mandatory if the died was the husband, and 'allowed for the relatives. source –  Hicham LEMGHARI Jan 18 '13 at 9:32
add comment

Your Answer

 
discard

By posting your answer, you agree to the privacy policy and terms of service.

Not the answer you're looking for? Browse other questions tagged or ask your own question.