I've been bought up in a culture where masturbation is a dirty disgusting thing, something which you never do, never talk about, and never even think about, and I have always thought that islam forbids masturbation.
Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning): "And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." 23.5-7 Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor. http://islamqa.info/en/ref/329
I read a question here at SE titled: Explaining to a toddler when masturbation is appropriate.
The title caught my attention. The reason for this I will be explaining below, but when I read the comments and answers, I was really shocked. It seems masturbation has become so "the norm" these days that parents actually encourage their children to do it, but in private. I guess that is still better than encouraging them to masturbate in public.
Anyway, at the same time I was a little relieved, the reason for this is because I have a toddler, she seems to masturbate too. I am concerned about this, and I was a little relieved when I realised that she is not the only toddler on the planet who does this. She is only little so I am sure she will not be sinning for this act. However, what does islam say about this and how would a parent go about stopping such a a dirty disgusting addiction preferably with islamic techniques, islamic parenting techniques etc?
Before people start judging us and thinking it's the parents fault, they should not do that type of stuff infront of her, or they should make sure she doesn't see anything inappropriate. You will be on the wrong track for thinking that. She basically has full body eczema, and I think she "discovered" her private area while trying to releave the itchiness of her eczema problem.