As far as genuine Islamic teachings are considered, far from being hated, women are held in high esteem and should be dearly loved by their parents, husbands and brothers. Also in Islam no one is allowed by Allah to involve in practices and deeds that are considered sinful.
But from the kind of things you expect women to normally do, I assume that you're a westerner and just as every other average westerner, you have hard time understanding Islam and Muslim culture and way of conduct. That's because you have grown up in a secular liberal society and have embraced its values and norms with no question. And that makes you assume that your culture is probably the normal and correct way of life and every other society who doesn't follow you is abnormal, irrational and backward. This is just a natural consequence of someone being raised exclusively in one culture without having yet the opportunity for critical study of his own culture and objective study of others.
The other problem is that even when many westerners try to objectively study and understand other cultures they miserably fail! The fundamental philosophical premises of dominant western thinking and culture prevents the observer to judge and evaluate other cultures objectively. In other words, they tend to see other cultures through their own biased lenses. This makes one for example to assume that muslim women are repressed, sexually discriminated, backward and unintelligent simply because they don't abide with western notions of liberal conduct which celebrate egoism and considers trying to appeal to every random male on the street via exposing of one's body and skin the apex of human freedom!
However in genuine Muslim thinking, those norms and conducts are considered to be clear sings of a blatantly superficial, morally bankrupt, dehumanized society where sacred values such as marriage and morals, commitment to family, modesty, humility and consciousness of the Creator (i.e. things that really make us human according to Islam) have become totally compromised and forgotten for long. The souls of such a society, far from truly free, are considered to be enslaved by carnal, egoistic desires.
In Islam, real happiness is achieved by moderated and responsible sexual life through marriage, purification of one's soul from relentless desires of the flesh and nurturing it with spirituality and Godly humility and compassion. Care for body is encouraged albeit mainly for maintaining one's health for running a successful religious life, not for public display and attracting attention. Burqa or Hijab is used for protecting women's chastity from lustful looks of ill-hearted men who tend to treat women as objects of mere pleasure. That's also how a muslim woman implies that she should be judged and respected for her character traits and human virtues and not be reduced to a doll.
With all that said, I have to admit that the contemporary muslim Ummah has failed to introduce genuine Islamic Wisdom to the world. In fact many muslim groups and governments misrepresent Islam and show a distorted picture of Islam. Disadvantaged conditions of women in some 'muslim' societies must be blamed on bad policies of the government and twisted understanding of many influential muslim scholars and schools of Islamic jurisprudence. For example, so long as women observe hijab and modesty and their dignity is protected, there seems to be no real Islamic basis to deny them the right to engage in social and public activities and jobs such as driving cars or working in the business or government sector.
But Islam and genuine muslim scholars have always held women and feminine role in the society in high esteem. For example, Imam Ruhollah Khomeini the leader of Iranian Islamic Revolution of 1979 had a great love and respect for women. He considered women to have a very vital role in creation and human development. This is what he had to say about services of Islam to women on the birth anniversary of the Lady Fatima Zahra, prophet's heavenly daughter:
This joyous birthday occurred in a place and time when women were not
considered to be human beings and their very existence was seen as a
source of shame for families among the different tribes of the
pre-Islamic times. In such a corrupt and barbaric environment, the
great Prophet of Islam took woman’s hand and delivered her from the
slough of pagan customs. The history of Islam testifies to the
limitless respect the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon
him and his descendants, showed this noble infant, so as to
demonstrate that woman has a special greatness in society, and if she
is not superior to man, she is certainly no less than him. So this day
is the day of woman’s revivification, and the day to establish her
honour and the great role she plays in society.
Thanks to the Islamic revolutionary revival that Imam Khomeini led, Iranian society managed to set a brilliant example in social manifestation of Islamic feminine essence for the world to see. Iranian pious muslim woman played a courageous and crucial role in victory of the Islamic Revolution over the tyranny of Pahlavi secular monarchy and its subsistence through post-revolutionary challenges. In this regard Imam said:
Women are the source of all blessings. We all saw what role the women
played in this movement. History has witnessed great women in the
world and what it means to be a woman, but history is remote. We
ourselves have witnessed the kind of woman Islam has nurtured. In this
recent period, the women who rose up were the veiled women from the
south of the city, from Qum and other places where Islam enjoys a
I'm not going to mention the more Shiite specific beliefs in regards with women in Islam except to briefly mention that according to Shiites, Lady Fatima Zahra was among the 13 Infallible who share the primordial substance of the Holy Prophet which preceded all creation, the highest possible virtue for a woman that humanity can not even so easily comprehend let alone match! Imam Khomeini alludes to this wisdom in one of his speeches about the status of Lady Zahraa which people can read on the link I provided in the end.
Source for quotations: The Position of Women from the Viewpoint of Imam Khomeini (r.a.), Chapter: Great Women of the World