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I'm Ahmed. Indeed, it's not my real name but I use it since I converted in Muslim. After different years, I asked myself various and many things and then I decided to do the first step. I did the shahada, now I pray more than five times per day and behave like a good Muslim. Sometimes I feel really alone because after my decision, I lost all of my friends and a large part of my family which is why I feel alone but I think Allah is with me in this moment but I think people could help as well. The only few Muslim who help me, I'm afraid of making them upset, some of them don't answer me back and some of them reply after hours. My only reason to go on is Allah, sometimes I go to my countryside where I have some trees and stay there and pray to seek help from Allah. It's sad when you feel alone and nobody helps you but you keep trying and trying to think Allah is with me, but my two questions are " how can I overcame the sadness and solitude if I'm truly alone?, " why my decision to become a Muslim made me lose all of my friends?

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Just a comment (from an atheist) to say it annoys me that your friends can't accept you for who you are if that includes being a Muslim. That's your choice, and they should respect it. – Almo Mar 6 '14 at 21:54
"Why my decision to become a Muslim made me lose all of my friends?" - have you tried asking your (ex-)friends, as well as asking Allah? – Andrew Grimm Mar 6 '14 at 23:59
I don't know much about depression, but you may want to check if you're suffering from depression or some other disorder, and get help if you are. – Andrew Grimm Mar 7 '14 at 0:08
  1. Appreciate that you are favoured by Allah. Allah gave you wealthy thing which named it imaan (faith).Not the whole people have it.

  2. Think about next world which everybody will rewarded based on his/her act. You chose Islam in that world instead of this world’s friends. You will rewarded in the hereafter.

"Allah has promised those who believe and do righteous deeds [that] for them there is forgiveness and great reward."Surat Al-Mā'idah,verse9

  1. Whenever you feel sad make dua to Allah especially in the latter part of the night. And be sure that Allah will listen to you and he loves you. Know that Allah will give you the best at the best time, whether in that world or in hereafter.

"Those who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of Allah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allah hearts are assured."Surat Ar-Ra`d,verse28

"Fighting has been enjoined upon you while it is hateful to you. But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not."Surat Al-Baqarah,verse216

  1. Rely on Allah. Allah is closer to you than your jugular vein and knows you better than yourself. He will never make you to feel sad when others will.

"So remember Me; I will remember you. And be grateful to Me and do not deny Me."Surat Al-Baqarah,verse152

" rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him]."Surat 'Āli `Imrān,verse159

"And We have already created man and know what his soul whispers to him, and We are closer to him than [his] jugular vein"Surat Qāf,verse16

  1. Remember God examines his servants by different things to show them their measure of imaan. May it be your exam.

"And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, Who,when disaster strikes them, say, Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return."Surat Al-Baqarah,verse 155,156

  1. Allah will help you now and forever.

"If Allah should aid you, no one can overcome you; but if He should forsake you, who is there that can aid you after Him? And upon Allah let the believers rely."Surat 'Āli `Imrān,verse160


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Brother, It s not an easy way to follow when you just have been converted to Islam. Especially when you don t get the support/friendship/love you perhaps had expected. I would like to convert too but will wait till Allah answers my prayers. In the meantime I would like to exchange my experiences/thoughts/ ideas about life in general as someone who is seeking for the Truth with a new born Muslim man. I m not young anymore. So it will be a big step forward,I hope, if I convert to Islam. Hopefully I wont get disappointed afterwards. I have already prayed for several days but Allah has not responded yet. Would you mind to correspond with me about e.g. the reason of you becoming a muslim. My name is Yahya and have to take a decision this year about changing my faith.

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Feeling alone and quite abandoned by people is a situation I passed several times in my life and actually it disheartens you when you are trying to communicate with some people but they don't pay enough attention to what you are saying or simply become tired of hearing your problems. All I could tell you is when you believe in something (in your case Allah, in my case God, I'm Christian but I believe is the same God) you will find a way to overcome this special situation that you face(transitory situation). In my case,hearing speeches of Christian's Pastor who I find him quite encouraging,could help me. perhaps you could find something similar which you can rely on. Believe in your heavenly father is something that would help you eventually(actually, it's helping you now), and it is the most rewarded.

Despite of some people 's opinion which suggests you to get married, I believe,it doesn't work.To make this kind of commitment you need to put yourself together first. I've got a list of things which could help you but any situation is different. I'm aware Muslims pray five times per a day (I've got a Muslim friend),but every morning pray a little, like you are talking to your best friend, it works for me :) I hope my advice be helpful for you.

The pastor who I follow,usually say: "Don't worry, have faith!"

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Asalamu Alaikom,

I'm sorry to hear you are having this experience after converting Ahmed. I am a 26 year old girl working in a non-Muslim city which doesn't have a large Muslim community. There's a masjid I go to for Friday prayers but otherwise my friends are all non-Muslim Canadians. As great as they are, I still feel VERY alone a lot of the time. I have no friends around to discuss my religion and beliefs. I'm always around people who talk about dating, partying, etc and things I don't take part in and fully disagree with anyway. I feel as though it's a test from Allah but it is extremely hard sometimes!

I feel best when I pray to Allah, read Quran, and listen to khutbas. I start to feel Allah is indeed so close and in times where my Iman is strongest, I start to feel like Allah is a friend to me, elhamdulela.

I'm not sure I have any advice or my story helps you at all, but it might make you feel better to know you're not alone (happens to nonconverts too). I hope that you are able to find Muslims to befriend and share your experiences with.


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AssalamAlaikum Brother,

I would support beautiful mind in what they have to say, apart from that, I would like to add.

Loneliness is something that surely puts you to test. Those friends whom you might have actually lost, are probably not the most appropriate people to hang around all the time. In order to avoid temptation, it is really important to have the right friends.

Those who practice the Deen with you and make you remember Allah (SWT) whenever you are with them.

Also, such problems are not only faced by converts but also those Muslims, who were not practicing enough in the past and suddenly start practicing their religion. Sometimes such people have friends who do All what a good Muslim is not supposed to do and naturally when you start changing, they are pushed away from you. This however is also in your own interest, as it gives you a chance to be among the right people and get closer to Allah (SWT).

If you visit the mosque 5 times a day, try to hang around a bit. Talk to the people who come for prayers. The mosque can be a great place to find new friends.

Further as obviously friends cannot be with you all the time. If you want a partner to be there for you all the time, more like a best friend. You should consider getting married. Marriage completes half the Deen and you can progress in your Iman, along with your partner.

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